friend

December 13, 2025

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the problem with having dreams
about places and people you haven’t seen
in some time, is that they all tend to
mesh
and merge
together, becoming one big amalgamation of
The Past™
or This Point In My Life™
or Anyone And Anything I Haven’t Thought Of In A While™

and though i appreciate
that my brain is constantly churning
even at night
and never lets anything
go,
i do wish the memories were
clearer,
so i could actually contact
whoever my subconscious
is missing
at any given point
and actually reach out to them
and say
hello

February 8, 2025

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click your heels together
and say
“there’s no place
like home
there’s no place
like home”

but if home isn’t a place
it’s a feeling
it’s a space for you to
know your own true you

aren’t the heels simply clicking
on the road
to your friends
your clique
your crew
your coconspirators
and comrades
and found family?

is that the truth?

September 30, 2024

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windshield wipers
swipe the gentle drizzle
away from my sight
as i try to listen
and hear
and absorb
and accept
this love coming at me from the passenger side
but it’s hard when your own brain gives you ways
to always counter with absurd logic
anything better than
utter self-hatred

but i’m trying
i’m trying
i’m trying

May 5, 2023

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i wish i was better
at being a full friend
instead of a ‘when i see you’
kind of ami

i’m certainly not a
‘fair weather friend’
because i’ll stick by you
in storms and sun alike,
but if i don’t get your face in my mind
and have reason to reach out
i’ll get stuck in my head about
whether or not
me contacting you would be
an inconvenience
or remind you how long it’s been since
we last connected
and so i avoid it
at all costs
and live in my own little world of
feeling like no time has passed
like we could immediately pick up a friendship
fresh from where we left off
(just have more fodder for conversation catch-up)
but i know people change
and i don’t know how to rearrange my brain
to comprehend this fact
that everyone else seems to get
accept
move
on

but there was reason we were friends back then
i don’t see why we wouldn’t still now
beautifully get along

March 9, 2022

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if i’ve ever said
‘i love you’
i still do.

if i’ve ever told you
we should meet up for coffee
and chat the day away,
i’ve actually meant it.

if you’ve ever meant a great deal to me
you still do.

time is a mortal construction
and isn’t linear.

i don’t have
‘friendship degradation mechanics’
and if we’ve had a falling out
i’ve told you so.

if we’ve simply drifted
apart
from one another
(over time or space or experiences)
just know
i think of you often
and if you were to reach out
to me
for that coffee/chat/catchup
i’d be on top of that opportunity
in an instant

but

i don’t know how other people work,
so i don’t say ‘hey’ out of the blue
when i really mean
‘you’ve been on my mind
my whole life
and i still think of you
as you were
at 11 or 16 or 22,
but i know people grow
and i’d love to see
how you’ve grown
because you are important to me
and i love hearing you tell stories,
and debating opinions on tv shows,
and getting to see inside your soul’
because that’s
~~too much~~
for some people
(and i don’t know if that’s the direction you’ve grown
so
i play it safe

and i say

nothing.)